Something’s Gotta Give
September 23, 2010
I can’t do it all. When I forget or ignore this fact- that’s when it becomes a problem.
There are so many things that I want to do and be. But, I can’t do and be everything. I’d make my list about all that I want to do and be, but it would be tedious to read. We all have our list.
The temptation is to pretend that we really can do it all if we just manage our time better. If we just try a little harder. There are limitations in life. I think that sitting with those limitations is a key to living a more fulfilling life. Sitting with our limitations forces us to choose. The painful reality is that whether we acknowledge these choices or not, we are making choices.
I choose to schedule too much into my day, and I wind up snapping at my kids- truly two of the people to whom I am most accountable. Also the two people who are most vulnerable to a mom whose priorities are out of whack.
I choose to say yes to a commitment that I didn’t think through. And this commitment robs time from the people and projects that are most important to me and to our family.
There are always choices. They may be brutal choices, but we still have choices- choices that can be very costly.
I’m borrowing this phrase from my sister’s friend Heather. “There are no short cuts”. I think that it’s really true. I can’t have a fantastic relationship with my husband and children without investment. I can’t have a fabulous garden without spending time on it (which, by the way, is why my back yard looks like a pit right now). I can’t have great food for my family without spending time cooking. We can’t have a ton of money unless my husband works really long hours. We can’t have a big house in a nice area without a certain level of income. I can’t have a demanding career and stay home with my children. Trade offs. Choices.
So, I’m challenging myself. Think it through, Robin. What do I most want to do and be? Because something has got to give.